CityPainter
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Having relatives (and a couple of friends) living in Chicago makes a difference in how I view the city. You can be easily taken in by the powerful architecture downtown and by the Magnificent Mile, but when you hear some personal comments by Chicagoans, you start to think that the downtown is just a big show.
I feel Toronto comes up nicely in a comparison. The downtown may not look at all like Chicago, but the areas surrounding downtown Toronto are liveble, vibrant, and have actually never really been abandoned.
I visited Chicago about 8 years ago, and I remember I really liked it but after three days I really felt I had "seen" everything the average visitor would want to see. The waterfront pier was nice, the architecture in the downtown was great, I wandered Wicker Park, rode on the Loop, etc. But whenever we hit the "edge" of those areas this declined rapidly, and we were repeatedly told that certain areas were complete no-go zones for safety reasons. If I went back, I know I'd pretty much end up visiting the same places again.
Now clearly since I am much more familiar with Toronto than Chicago I know about more places to see, but even so, the "good" and "interesting" areas in Toronto seem to cover much more ground and to be much more numerous than in Chicago. You could walk Queen St from the Beaches to the end of Parkdale and with the exception of a few somewhat dull stretches, the entirety would be quite urban, diverse, and safe. It would pass through many pretty distinct neighbourhoods (Beaches, Leslieville, Corktown, St. Lawrence, Financial District, Queen West, West Queen West, Parkdale.)
Would it make sense to generalize all the generalizations above and say that perhaps Toronto and Chicago have similar amounts of wealth, but Toronto has spread it around more, while Chicago has concentrated it all in one area? So while our downtown is not as visually stunning at a glance, we also don't have the extreme urban decay opposite, either. Sure we have poorer and "at risk" neighbourhoods but they don't jump out so much and most people could wander through them without really even realizing it.
CITY_LOVER said:I like many things about Toronto but a few things that I am not a fan of are quite big (and are negatively impacting my life) and hence my comparison to Chicago (an American city that I feel is fairly close to Toronto overall).
You posted a very honest and thoughtfully written opinion. I'd have to agree with others who point out that maybe your concerns are as much about your perspective as about the city itself: some places just don't work for some people. I've been to cities I loved at first sight (NYC, London) and others I couldn't wait to leave even though they were perfectly "nice" on the surface (Budapest). It's an odd thing. If you're not happy here you shouldn't feel like you have to force it: move on! Who knows, maybe you'll find yourself back here in a decade and decide you've changed your mind. It's happened to friends of mine.
Also, it could be that I've lived in Toronto too long, but I really don't see people as that unfriendly here. I have amiable encounters with both strangers and acquaintances every day, and I'm not particularly ebullient or outgoing. I guess a bit of solitude or privacy just doesn't bother me much: if someone is lost in thought (or their book or their headphones) I don't take it personal or as a sign of unfriendliness. In a big city you sometimes just have to make your own virtual space to maintain some sanity. A lack of returning calls could just be a factor of people being overwhelmed with a lot of contacts each day.
But I can see how someone from a smaller town or city who's used to more forthright sociability could interpret things like that as unfriendliness. On the other hand, I might feel suffocated in a place where everyone I met treated me like a long lost relative! But again, that's my personal perspective coming into play. Good luck! If nothing else, you should be able to cash in on your condo value if you sell now
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