Of course i do agree lifestyle and our culture is not really set up to deal with having our parents live with us.
However i feel a lot of people dont really care about how seniors are treated in such facilities in general.
What i meant i feel there is a general apathy towards seniors in society at times which is odd as we will all become seniors one day.
Doubtless this is true in some cases. But I doubt its the norm.
If you have evidence for this, I'd like to see it.
In my own experience, when my mother was palliative, the woman who shared her room had her daughter coming in daily.
When my father was palliative, same thing.
I was at my father's bedside at least every other day.
There are people in LTC who don't have any children/siblings to be their advocates.
As well as some who have family with whom they don't get along or who disappoint.
But I don't think that describes a majority of situations.
I expect you'd find that people who are visiting family often aren't aware there's something wrong or feel helpless in trying to get it addressed if they do.
Sometimes what's wrong may be entirely obvious (if you see the cockroach or overt hygiene issues.)
But as often as not, these things go unseen.
If you come in to a facility filled with people who are often dying or in difficulty, you expect to hear people in pain or in need of a nurse.
If the paint isn't peeling; and lunch shows up at noon and looks ok for hospital food..........
You may not clue in that proper practices aren't being followed.
Even if you do........
Not everyone feels empowered to speak to a supervisor; or might worry about reprisals against their loved one.
I'm a professional advocate, self-confident, educated, and I know how to move around governments and non-profits reasonably well.
But not everyone has had that life.
Even then, things happen when someone like me is involved.
I had to spend time talking to managers when I heard of things going amiss; even in a facility with an excellent reputation, which mostly provided a high standard of care.
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What does happen though, is what happens to the healthcare system writ large, or the education system or the environment, or the homeless shelter system.
The average person simply has limited personal experience with these for the bulk of their life.
As such they aren't aware of problems and aren't lobbying to fix what they don't know about.
Beyond that, there is the overall culture issue of a certain segment of the population bemoaning taxes ad nauseum and depriving government of the resources to do their job better.
