I'm leaning more to wishful thinking on MM's part too. The whole "the Russian mafia are involved that's why it's taking so long" thing just doesn't ring true, especially since the only evidence for that seems to be that Ford's lawyer was once lawyer for some other drug-dealing criminals over 15 years ago.
I don't know where this "Rofo gets a handjob" video thing is coming from either - the Gawker and Star reporters would have been sure to mention that if they'd seen it, and the only other "second video" thing I've seen anywhere was when the police said it was a shorter version of the crack vid. There's far too much rumour and not enough actual credible evidence / witnesses of these things for me, unlike with the crack video itself.