Talking To Americans
Speaking of American tourists, I met a guy from Chicago yeaterday for coffe at Timothy's. This is a guy I've chatted with a few times on the net, so when he phoned me to meet and give him a tour/advice and info about Toronto, I was happy to help. Within one minute of meeting him I asked him if he's enjoying Toronto. (at this point he had only been in town a few hours) His reply was "It's ok but it's not Chicago". I wasn't exactly sure what he meant, so I asked him. He told me Toronto had nothing, no life, no architecture, it was just ordinary. I asked him what he saw. He told me he walked from the gay village to the Eaton Centre and back and he did not see anything nice. "All the buildings are small and ugly" he responded. I responded, "Well, if you only saw that tiny part, you can't make any judgements yet". His reply, "I just don't like Toronto, there are prostitutes right in front of my hotel". I go "Chicago doesn't have prostitutes?" He says "I've never seen any", Followed by "I'm so lucky I live in Chicago, I live in a beautiful area (Boystown) right on the lake and my neighbourhood is so safe and beautiful, the street is lined with beautyful, classy stores and restaurants, it's so nice" "I AM SO LUCKY". I say, well, the subway, south side poverty, segrigation, crime, deserted streets, abandoned houses, non-lively boystown with discreat bars are not my cup of tea. Chicago is not perfect. Aguments continue!!! I need a break, so I say, "well, let's go for a walk and I'll show you around the village, I think you'll like it. I WAS WRONG!!! lol
Complaints "It's so small (he mean't the village LOL), why are people sitting outside, I don't like people standing around doing nothing, these buildings are not very nice, why are there no classy restaurants, there are no attractive men in Toronto, (I did not take it personally, I know I'm an ugly ****er!l) Why are there prostitutes around here, don't people care about the neighbourhood, on and on and on it went for about 20 min.
We went back to Timothy's for coffee and I had decided to throw in a few of my insights of Chicago. My boyfriend, who was there too, was smart enough to not say much the whole evening. My bf is obviously MUCH smarter then I. I admit, it was probably not a good idea but I thought if I said them in my diplomatic Canadian way, it would be ok. My contention is that, although Toronto is not a great city, it definatly has a lot to admire and fun can be had in Toronto, if one is open to enjoying the city.
I pointed out a few of our good points, "our subway is ok, we have some cool shopping areas, our streets are mostly lively and interesting, our ethnic populations are mixed in just about every neighbourhood, the gay village is wide open and relaxed, are prostitutes are harmless and the city is safe and we have some nice neighbourhoods.
Did I win him over? For every comment I made he repeated the same thing "I don't care about that". LOL After about an hour, I realised I was an idiot and stopped debating. I may get a bit passionate about my city but even I know when it's pointless.
Within an hour I had 2 different friends stop to say hello. When I introduced Mr. Chicago, they of course said, "how are you enjoying Toronto?" LOL I heard his tirade 2 more times and 2 more arguments about Toronto. (And one of my friends was an American who moved here over 20 years ago) Finally, I was hearing Toronians fight and defend Toronto, as if it was a place worth defending. I was laughing inside, even when the conversation was getting a bit over-heated. Both friends left rather perplexed and mentioned "we get free healthcare and gay marriage is legal here!!" before their exits. Mr. Chicago was not impressed and even had the gall to say he hated Montreal ("boaring pretend Europeans" and The city was decayed or something like that. Hey, Vancouver and Quebec City came out as nothing special BUT Boston, New York, San Francisco, San Diago, Miami and Of course, Chicago, were all amazing and great cities.
Am I boaring you guys with my Honest-to-god, true story? I do have a point! lol By the way, he was not impressed by Paris or London, so we are in good company!!! He asked me if I thought he would like The beaches or Kensington Market. I told him, forget it, you'll hate both. I had no suggestions for him at all, I figured if I advised him to go somewhere, he call me back and say that sucked!!! Since he is stuck here till tuesday, I guess it will be a difficult few days for him.A man who has seen the splenders of Boston and Miami is impossible to impress. I did suggest a few restaurants but he doesn't like Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, Indian, Spanish, Jamacian, Jewish, French, Greek, Arabic, African or Vietnamese food. But he loves pizza. UM, PIZZA PIZZA?
So, my point, lol, is, (are you still with me?) :rollin it takes a Toronto dissing American to get a Torontonians to appreciate and defend our city. It it was nice to hear Torontonians speaking so passionatly about our attributes. Next point, never argue with an American who can't see anything good in your city. You can never win in that situation. >: