You get what you pay for.
That is about what it all boils down to.
If your building has your maintenance fee at whatever it is, then you are paying your fair share to maintain that whole building. The reserve portion for future expensive repairs is simply a common sense responsible thing to do. It is what the average homeowner should do but of course doesn't.
If you choose not to use the common facilities like the pool, gym, theatre, or whatever, well, you knew they were there when you bought the condo.
There are no nasty little gnomes hiding in your building and spending your maintenance fees. Ever cent is always accounted for. These are the plain and simple facts. The only gripe anyone can ever have is if they they feel that the reserve fund is too fat. It always is for some people until some huge catastropic unexpected repair is required. If a an extra surcharge is dumped on the condo owners to cover off the balance of a huge bill, these are usually the same people who will bitch that the reserve should have been larger.
Cheaper to live in a house? Go ahead. Do your own shoveling, lawnmowing, renovating, swimming pool maintenace(a biggie, believe me), and general upgrading and replacement(roof, windows, doors, furnace, airconditioner etc) . Pay all your own utility and unexpected major repair bills (and you will have them). Put in your own security sytem. If this sounds like the lifestyle you yearn for than that is where you belong.
While you are bragging to people about all the money you are saving over living in a condo, you will be scratching your head wondering why you don't seem to have a whole lot of extra money in your pocket.
I've lived it both ways several times as circumstances deemed fit in my life. Guess what. Neither way is cheaper. It's about personal preference and lifestyle. What tastes better for you? An apple or an orange. How do you argue about the logic of one over the other?
You get what you pay for.